Dear Birth Parent(s):
First and foremost, thank you for considering us in what we imagine may be one of the most challenging decisions in your life. We don’t assume to know or judge the circumstances that have placed you in this situation but hope that by giving you a glimpse into our lives and learning about us it can bring you some comfort, if selecting us as adoptive parents.
Our names are Veronica and Ernesto. We are both the eldest of three children (from our respective families) and are of Mexican American heritage. Veronica was born in Northern California. She had a happy childhood, full of fun weekly family gatherings. During middle school, her family moved to Southern California where her parents still reside. She has a close relationship with her parents, siblings, and extended family. Ernesto is an integral part of the family and has developed his own special bond to each of Veronica’s family members. Veronica loves “do it yourself projects,” acrylic or oil painting, drawing, music, crafts, cooking healthy meals, and working out. She enjoys other activities such as weight training, kickboxing, yoga, family time, and snuggling with a good book and a cup of coffee.
Ernesto was born and raised in Southern California. His home was structured and supportive. His family included his parents, younger siblings and extended family whom he shared many pleasant moments. During his childhood, he was actively engaged in school, including boy scouts, and the school band. He also remains connected with his family despite his parents’ divorce during his early adulthood. Ernesto loves deep sea ocean fishing and jumps at any chance of going fishing with friends and family. He is also a “movie buff,” loves to joke, laugh, make other’s laugh, and several aquatic activities, such as snorkeling and swimming.
Ernesto and Veronica enjoy participating in each other’s favorite past times. We support and encourage each other in our goals and challenges. Together, we enjoy activities such as bicycling, walks, going to the movies, taking “staycations” (stay at home vacations), spending time with our friends, going to church, cuddling with our two cats (Mimi and Roxy) and eating sushi. Most of all we embrace and value the time we are simply together.
How we met is as memorable as the life we have lived. As fate would have it, we met upon graduating from college. We each attended different universities and neither one of us was looking for love the day we crossed paths. However, fireworks went off when we met over the 1998 Independence Day weekend getaway, planned by a mutual friend, and we have been in love since then.
In the fall of 2000, Veronica began her Doctorate in Psychology in San Francisco, CA while Ernesto went off to Medical school in Chicago, IL. Having a long-distance relationship became the first major challenge in our relationship. Needless to say, it was a difficult time in our lives. Yet through it all, we built friendships, networks, remained connected, faithful and committed to our relationship. In 2004, we got married and lived in Chicago for a few years.
While in Chicago, we faced the second major challenge of our lives: Veronica was diagnosed with Lupus. Lupus, if you are not familiar with this illness, is a genetic condition that causes pain and muscles, periods of fatigue, and other symptoms. There is no cure for Lupus but the key has been in learning to live with Lupus. Treatment was quickly initiated to help Veronica return to her “normal” daily routine. Through it all, Ernesto did not waver in his wedding promise of “through sickness and health” and kept caring for, supporting, helping, and loving Veronica throughout all the painful episodes and fears. Our relationship and love only became stronger drawing us closer.
Since the beginning of our relationship, we had hoped to someday have children of our own. However, the years began to pass and the Lupus was not yet stable during this period of time. In late 2007, we learned that Lupus had affected Veronica’s kidneys and we would have to further post-pone our pregnancy. Over time, we had to make the painful decision that becoming pregnant would not be part of our lives. This decision has been the most difficult we have made together. Quite honestly, it took several years to work through it and to finally be at peace with the reality that we will not be able to get pregnant. We have cried, prayed, and held each other through it all. The pains and struggles we went through have only reinforced the commitment and love we have for one another. Lupus episodes still occur but with time management, self-care, exercise, support, and healthy nutrition, Veronica’s Lupus is now stable. We both have fulfilling careers and live a productive, healthy, and active life.
Overall, we learned that life will have its unfortunate and unexpected events, but life and faith (we are Roman Catholics) continue providing blessings and rewarding experiences. Despite it all, we have built a beautiful life together that we wish to someday share with a precious baby girl.
We hope you won’t be left thinking of our love story as a sad story, but instead, that you can envision that we created a relationship grounded on love, faith, commitment, and resilience. We live blessed and fulfilling lives and hope to pass our knowledge and love to our future child. We are not looking to fill a void but to provide a loving home. Our profound wish is to share our love, experience, and blessings with a baby girl so that she may have the opportunity to blossom into a wonderful person. We intend to provide guidance, protection, and unconditional love so that she can become the best human being possible while all the while knowing she is loved in this world. We hope to someday meet you and thank you again for giving us your time and consideration.
Ernesto & Veronica