“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” (Jeremiah 29:11 NIV)
Dear Expectant Parents,
We understand that you are making one of the most difficult decisions of your life right now. We pray that God will provide you with the strength and discernment you need to choose a family to place your baby as his/her forever loving and supportive home. Thank you for taking the time to read our letter. David and I have always wanted to adopt and we discovered our shared desire while we were dating. This desire has grown and nurtured, and we feel God is calling us and preparing us to welcome a child into our home.
To help you with this journey, we want to tell you a little about us. Of course, you can only learn so much over a few paragraphs on paper. If you feel the need to get to know us better, we would love to chat over a phone call, FaceTime, Skype, or in-person.
David was born in Boise, Idaho and moved to Yakima, Washington in Junior High. Growing up in the Pacific Northwest has had a strong influence on his life. The mountains, canyons, rivers, and streams have shaped his sense of adventure, love of nature, and interest in outdoor activities. The same hunger to explore the wilderness beyond his neighborhood as a young boy, led David to enlist in the Air Force as a young man. He had dreams of becoming an Air Force Pilot. His hard work and dedication paid off. After four years of working during the day and taking college classes on nights and weekends, he was selected for an ROTC scholarship to Embry-Riddle Aeronautical University where he finished his degree, became an Officer, and earned the privilege to attend Pilot Training. David flew Air Force aircrafts all over the world and eventually his career brought him to Birmingham, Alabama. This is where we first met in 2008.
So now a little bit about me, and what brought me from China to Birmingham. I was born in Wuxi, Jiangsu Province, and raised in Suzhou, Jiangsu Province. Growing up in the city, I developed my own sense of adventure. However, unlike David exploring the mountains and rivers, I explored the great aspects of a city life. I loved trying new restaurants, going to museums, theme parks, concerts, and strolling through markets. I wasn’t exposed to outdoor activities until I came to the U.S. for graduate school after I graduated from Yangzhou University. My first stop was at Auburn University in Alabama. One of my roommates was a cheerleader for Auburn football and through her influence, I became a college football fan. After graduate school at Auburn, I went to the University of Alabama at Birmingham (UAB) for my PhD. During the third year of my PhD program, I met David at a church small group, shortly after he arrived in Birmingham.
It was love at first sight for both of us. We met on September 14, 2008 and we were married less than a year later on May 30, 2009. Nine years later, God has remained the center of our marriage and our love for each other has continued to grow. David has taught me to enjoy camping, skiing, and other outdoor activities. I have showed him that Broadway shows, ballet performances, operas, and symphonies are fun too. And we both love a spontaneous foodie trip to explore a new city enticed by reading about or hear of an interesting restaurant.
Two years after our marriage, we moved to Arizona from Birmingham, so that I could attend law school at Arizona State University.
A summer law school internship in San Diego introduced us to the beauty of California. We moved to San Diego and I finished law school at the University of San Diego. It was easy for us to fall in love with California. All the things we love about traveling to far-away places to experience new cultures and food, can be found in California.
My parents from Suzhou, China live with us half the year. David & I love their company and they love staying with us. They are eager for us to welcome a baby into our family.
Currently, I practice as a patent and trademark attorney at a law firm in Palo Alto, CA. We live nearby in Mountain View, and have grown to love the Bay Area as much as we loved San Diego. David retired from the Air Force as a Lieutenant Colonel and has started a second career as a pilot for an Aerospace company.
Thank you again for taking the time to read our story. We will continue to pray for God’s peace, comfort, and discernment over your important decision, in choosing an adoption family. Actually, I wish there were a better word than "adopted." I recently read an article about Sandra Bullock. She said, "let's all just refer to these kids as 'our kids.' No one calls their 'IVF child,' let's just say 'our children'". We very much share the same sentiment. Your baby will simply be our child. There will not be any difference between an adopted child and a biological child.
We will raise all our children to be happy, joyful, kind, considerate, open-minded, adventurous, respectful, independent, and resilient. Most importantly, we want this child to know God and live according to God’s purpose for his/her life. This child would have both sets of grandparents to love on him/her as we are both close to our parents. He/she would also have tons of cousins to grow up with. Our dogs, Guinness and Enzo, will be wonderful big brothers with plenty of “puppy kisses.”
David and Rona